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Rules of the Rainbow

There are a few very important things that need to be said, so I thought I would just address them all up front and post them as a permanent page as well as our first blog post(s). I’m going to break them up into manageable bits and do my best to keep it short.

This will also be where I put any additions that need to be made along the way, which of course will be blogged and linked as well.



First and foremost, Suck The Rainbow expects its members to  respect  what we realize is a very diverse community, and extend that respect to each individual here. We don’t require that you agree with anyone about anything, and we don’t want anyone to feel like they have to keep their opinions to themselves—but we do expect everyone to communicate without shaming, shutting down or hatemongering behavior.  

Not everyone is always going to agree, and that’s fine. Disagree to your heart’s content—but do it with the respect you’d  show your fellow community members if you were face to face.

We are likely to cover many controversial or triggering topics here, including but not limited to race, religion, politics, and legal issues. These alone might keep the few of us currently working at Suck the Rainbow busy putting out a few fires. And that’s before we even get to the use of pronouns, real and true (insert your kink here), or any number of very personal lifestyle topics and personal choices.

The alt community has a reputation for being open, honest and respectful in our communications, and Suck the Rainbow is 100% committed to maintaining those standards. We all have enough problems from outside our community, so let’s not make things worse by treating each other the same way they sometimes treat us. We’re all here to have fun, learn, connect and celebrate our lifestyles, not  waste time dealing with drama, BS and the fallout it creates.

What’s the bottom line? Suck The Rainbow reserves the right at all times to remove, either temporarily or permanently, any person whose behavior we believe is detrimental to this community as a whole, without warning and without recourse.

Now that we have these details settles … welcome! Littles, bears, daddies, pups, ponies, masters, mistresses, slaves, subs, switches, furries, gays, lesbians, asexuals, trans of all sorts, and so much more—such as  the ren fair folk, cosplayers and con geeks – We’re glad you’re here, and honor you all for your uniqueness and what you offer our community.


We at Suck The Rainbow want to be a community for everyone who wants to be here. If it’s legal and practiced by consenting adults, it’s all good with us!

We’re here to promote inclusion and to bring more joy to your life. We don’t want anyone who comes here to ever feel uncomfortable or unhappy. This is a take-it-to-the-bank, solid-gold truth.

BUT … there is always a “but” isn’t there?

 So much diversity also means that you might, at some point, run across something you find offensive, triggering, or that for some other reason makes you unhappy.

In an ideal world, no one would ever have to deal with something that made them feel alienated. But we all know there is no such thing as “ideal”—and that can sometimes be especially true online. 

Our goal is to walk the fine line between giving everyone the right to speak their minds—while making the best and most well-thought-out judgment calls we can when things get too tense. So unless we see  a serious problem with someone’s statements (based on the goals we’ve created for Suck The Rainbow),  we won’t silence or remove anyone, take down any post, comment, product, or page, or in any other way take the voice away from one person only to suit another’s sensibilities.

We feel that to truly respect each of our lifestyles and the individuals who are part of them, this is simply the way it must be. You don’t have to agree with it or like it. You don’t even have to be quiet about how much you don’t agree with it or like it.

 What we do ask is that you accept things you don’t like and let them exist—and that you remain civil if you decide to talk about how much you don’t like them.